A meets B, introductions are done, and they hit it off like they’ve known each other for ages.
A meets C, and there’s an inexplicable aversion. Regardless of how much good C does, she can do no right. Nothing C does is acceptable, even the same things B does that are oohed, aaahh’d and awww’d over by A.
For a while I’ve wondered what the reason(s) behind our attractions and repulsions are. And this is not about the obvious things that naturally draw us together, or push people away. Have you ever had that one person (or a few people lol), with whom you just can’t get along? Not because of any particular thing they’ve done, or any reason you can place a finger on, but just because… And then if they’re unlucky enough to really want to be a part of your life, it just makes their situation worse cause your pushing and their pushing back then paints them in pathetic light, giving you legit reasons to judge them (and what the hell is a legit reason to judge?!)
On the other side of the coin, there are those friends who can do no wrong. You know they are unbelievable jerks, yet you’re blind to their horns and all you see are halos. And when indeed their sins are a little too pronounced for your rose-coloured glasses to blur, you are oh-so-quick to wash their garments whiter than snow. With them, it doesn’t matter that you’re the one who always starts those chats which they reply 13 hours later (you know how busy they are and you’re an understanding fella *rme*).You don’t mind that 9 out of 10 times they never call back when they say they will. When they’ve been out of touch, you miss them more than they miss you, but who cares anyway?
Life is funny, and this humour shows up in our interactions and relationships.
This brings to mind a book I heard of, ‘The Chemistry of Love’ written by a UNN lecturer, an academic script which literally explains the chemical reactions that either result in, or are a result of love – not sure which, but either way I think it will make for an interesting read. A text like this will probably hold the answers to our seemingly illogical reactions to the same situations with different people with regards to the affections or otherwise which they elicit in us; answers way more reasonable than ‘our spirits just don’t agree’.
Until then, who needs these explanations anyway? Go on, just feel!